virtio: add context flag to find vqs

Allows maintaining extra context per vq.  For ease of use, passing in
NULL is legal and disables the feature for all vqs.

Includes fixes by Christian for s390, acked by Cornelia.

Signed-off-by: Christian Borntraeger <borntraeger@de.ibm.com>
Acked-by: Cornelia Huck <cornelia.huck@de.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>