fm10k: fix "failed to kill vid" message for VF

When a VF is under PF VLAN assignment:

ip link set <pf> vf <#> vlan <vid>

This will remove all previous entries in the VLAN table including those
generated by VLAN interfaces created on the VF. The issue arises when
the VF is under PF VLAN assignment and one or more of these VLAN
interfaces of the VF are deleted. When deleting these VLAN interfaces,
the following message will be generated in "dmesg":

failed to kill vid 0081/<vid> for device <vf>

This is due to the fact that "ndo_vlan_rx_kill_vid" exits with an error.
The handler for this ndo is "fm10k_update_vid". Any calls to this
function while under PF VLAN management will exit prematurely and, thus,
it will generate the failure message.

Additionally, since "fm10k_update_vid" exits prematurely, none of the
VLAN update is performed. So, even though the actual VLAN interfaces of
the VF will be deleted, the active_vlans bitmask is not cleared. When
the VF is no longer under PF VLAN assignment, the driver mistakenly
restores the previous entries of the VLAN table based on an
unsynchronized list of active VLANs.

The solution to this issue involves checking the VLAN update action type
before exiting "fm10k_update_vid". If the VLAN update action type is to
"add", this action will not be permitted while the VF is under PF VLAN
assignment and the VLAN update is abandoned like before.

However, if the VLAN update action type is to "kill", then we need to
also clear the active_vlans bitmask. However, we don't need to actually
queue any messages to the PF, because the MAC and VLAN tables have
already been cleared, and the PF would silently ignore these requests
anyways.

Signed-off-by: Ngai-Mint Kwan <ngai-mint.kwan@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jacob Keller <jacob.e.keller@intel.com>
Tested-by: Krishneil Singh <krishneil.k.singh@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jeff Kirsher <jeffrey.t.kirsher@intel.com>