netlink: export policy in extended ACK

Add a new attribute NLMSGERR_ATTR_POLICY to the extended ACK
to advertise the policy, e.g. if an attribute was out of range,
you'll know the range that's permissible.

Add new NL_SET_ERR_MSG_ATTR_POL() and NL_SET_ERR_MSG_ATTR_POL()
macros to set this, since realistically it's only useful to do
this when the bad attribute (offset) is also returned.

Use it in lib/nlattr.c which practically does all the policy
validation.

v2:
 - add and use netlink_policy_dump_attr_size_estimate()
v3:
 - remove redundant break
v4:
 - really remove redundant break ... sorry

Reviewed-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Johannes Berg <johannes.berg@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>