nfsd: improve stateid access bitmask documentation

The use of the bitmaps is confusing.  Add a cross-reference to make it
easier to find the existing comment.  Add an updated reference with URL
to make it quicker to look up.  And a bit more editorializing about the
value of this.

Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>