drm/shmem-helper: Switch to reservation lock

Replace all drm-shmem locks with a GEM reservation lock. This makes locks
consistent with dma-buf locking convention where importers are responsible
for holding reservation lock for all operations performed over dma-bufs,
preventing deadlock between dma-buf importers and exporters.

Suggested-by: Daniel Vetter <daniel@ffwll.ch>
Acked-by: Thomas Zimmermann <tzimmermann@suse.de>
Reviewed-by: Emil Velikov <emil.l.velikov@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Dmitry Osipenko <dmitry.osipenko@collabora.com>
Link: https://patchwork.freedesktop.org/patch/msgid/20230529223935.2672495-7-dmitry.osipenko@collabora.com