nvme-pci: Add support for variable IO SQ element size

The size of a submission queue element should always be 6 (64 bytes)
by spec.

However some controllers such as Apple's are not properly implementing
the standard and require a different size.

This provides the ground work for the subsequent quirks for these
controllers.

Signed-off-by: Benjamin Herrenschmidt <benh@kernel.crashing.org>
Reviewed-by: Minwoo Im <minwoo.im.dev@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Signed-off-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>