libbpf: Add function to set link XDP fd while specifying old program

This adds a new function to set the XDP fd while specifying the FD of the
program to replace, using the newly added IFLA_XDP_EXPECTED_FD netlink
parameter. The new function uses the opts struct mechanism to be extendable
in the future.

Signed-off-by: Toke Høiland-Jørgensen <toke@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/158515700857.92963.7052131201257841700.stgit@toke.dk