tools: Add EXPECTED_FD-related definitions in if_link.h

This adds the IFLA_XDP_EXPECTED_FD netlink attribute definition and the
XDP_FLAGS_REPLACE flag to if_link.h in tools/include.

Signed-off-by: Toke Høiland-Jørgensen <toke@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/158515700747.92963.8615391897417388586.stgit@toke.dk