bpf: sockmap/tls, close can race with map free

When a map free is called and in parallel a socket is closed we
have two paths that can potentially reset the socket prot ops, the
bpf close() path and the map free path. This creates a problem
with which prot ops should be used from the socket closed side.

If the map_free side completes first then we want to call the
original lowest level ops. However, if the tls path runs first
we want to call the sockmap ops. Additionally there was no locking
around prot updates in TLS code paths so the prot ops could
be changed multiple times once from TLS path and again from sockmap
side potentially leaving ops pointed at either TLS or sockmap
when psock and/or tls context have already been destroyed.

To fix this race first only update ops inside callback lock
so that TLS, sockmap and lowest level all agree on prot state.
Second and a ULP callback update() so that lower layers can
inform the upper layer when they are being removed allowing the
upper layer to reset prot ops.

This gets us close to allowing sockmap and tls to be stacked
in arbitrary order but will save that patch for *next trees.

v4:
 - make sure we don't free things for device;
 - remove the checks which swap the callbacks back
   only if TLS is at the top.

Reported-by:  <syzbot+06537213db7ba2745c4a@syzkaller.appspotmail.com>
Fixes: 02c558b2 ("bpf: sockmap, support for msg_peek in sk_msg with redirect ingress")
Signed-off-by: John Fastabend <john.fastabend@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <jakub.kicinski@netronome.com>
Reviewed-by: Dirk van der Merwe <dirk.vandermerwe@netronome.com>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>