md: Be more careful about clearing flags bit in ->recovery

Setting ->recovery to 0 is generally not a good idea as it could clear
bits that shouldn't be cleared.  In particular, MD_RECOVERY_FROZEN
should only be cleared on explicit request from user-space.

So when we need to clear things, just clear the bits that need
clearing.

As there are a few different places which reap a resync process - and
some do an incomplte job - factor out the code for doing the from
md_check_recovery and call that function instead of open coding part
of it.

Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>
Reported-by: Jonathan Brassow <jbrassow@redhat.com>