samples/bpf: Add a "force" flag to XDP samples

Make xdp samples consistent with iproute2 behavior and set the
XDP_FLAGS_UPDATE_IF_NOEXIST by default when setting the xdp program on
interface. Provide an option for user to force the program loading,
which as a result will not include the mentioned flag in
bpf_set_link_xdp_fd call.

Signed-off-by: Maciej Fijalkowski <maciej.fijalkowski@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Jakub Kicinski <jakub.kicinski@netronome.com>
Acked-by: John Fastabend <john.fastabend@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>