fsnotify: use def_bool in kconfig instead of letting the user choose

fsnotify doens't give the user anything.  If someone chooses inotify or
dnotify it should build fsnotify, if they don't select one it shouldn't be
built.  This patch changes fsnotify to be a def_bool=n and makes everything
else select it.  Also fixes the issue people complained about on lwn where
gdm hung because they didn't have inotify and they didn't get the inotify
build option.....

Signed-off-by: Eric Paris <eparis@redhat.com>