nvme: centralize AEN defines

All the transports were unnecessarilly duplicating the AEN request
accounting. This patch defines everything in one place.

Signed-off-by: Keith Busch <keith.busch@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Guan Junxiong <guanjunxiong@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>