nvmet-rdma: use a private workqueue for delete

Queue deletion is done asynchronous when the last reference on the queue
is dropped.  Thus, in order to make sure we don't over allocate under a
connect/disconnect storm, we let queue deletion complete before making
forward progress.

However, given that we flush the system_wq from rdma_cm context which
runs from a workqueue context, we can have a circular locking complaint
[1]. Fix that by using a private workqueue for queue deletion.

[1]:
======================================================
WARNING: possible circular locking dependency detected
4.19.0-rc4-dbg+ #3 Not tainted
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kworker/5:0/39 is trying to acquire lock:
00000000a10b6db9 (&id_priv->handler_mutex){+.+.}, at: rdma_destroy_id+0x6f/0x440 [rdma_cm]

but task is already holding lock:
00000000331b4e2c ((work_completion)(&queue->release_work)){+.+.}, at: process_one_work+0x3ed/0xa20

which lock already depends on the new lock.

the existing dependency chain (in reverse order) is:

-> #3 ((work_completion)(&queue->release_work)){+.+.}:
       process_one_work+0x474/0xa20
       worker_thread+0x63/0x5a0
       kthread+0x1cf/0x1f0
       ret_from_fork+0x24/0x30

-> #2 ((wq_completion)"events"){+.+.}:
       flush_workqueue+0xf3/0x970
       nvmet_rdma_cm_handler+0x133d/0x1734 [nvmet_rdma]
       cma_ib_req_handler+0x72f/0xf90 [rdma_cm]
       cm_process_work+0x2e/0x110 [ib_cm]
       cm_req_handler+0x135b/0x1c30 [ib_cm]
       cm_work_handler+0x2b7/0x38cd [ib_cm]
       process_one_work+0x4ae/0xa20
nvmet_rdma:nvmet_rdma_cm_handler: nvmet_rdma: disconnected (10): status 0 id 0000000040357082
       worker_thread+0x63/0x5a0
       kthread+0x1cf/0x1f0
       ret_from_fork+0x24/0x30
nvme nvme0: Reconnecting in 10 seconds...

-> #1 (&id_priv->handler_mutex/1){+.+.}:
       __mutex_lock+0xfe/0xbe0
       mutex_lock_nested+0x1b/0x20
       cma_ib_req_handler+0x6aa/0xf90 [rdma_cm]
       cm_process_work+0x2e/0x110 [ib_cm]
       cm_req_handler+0x135b/0x1c30 [ib_cm]
       cm_work_handler+0x2b7/0x38cd [ib_cm]
       process_one_work+0x4ae/0xa20
       worker_thread+0x63/0x5a0
       kthread+0x1cf/0x1f0
       ret_from_fork+0x24/0x30

-> #0 (&id_priv->handler_mutex){+.+.}:
       lock_acquire+0xc5/0x200
       __mutex_lock+0xfe/0xbe0
       mutex_lock_nested+0x1b/0x20
       rdma_destroy_id+0x6f/0x440 [rdma_cm]
       nvmet_rdma_release_queue_work+0x8e/0x1b0 [nvmet_rdma]
       process_one_work+0x4ae/0xa20
       worker_thread+0x63/0x5a0
       kthread+0x1cf/0x1f0
       ret_from_fork+0x24/0x30

Fixes: 777dc823 ("nvmet-rdma: occasionally flush ongoing controller teardown")
Reported-by: Bart Van Assche <bvanassche@acm.org>
Signed-off-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Tested-by: Bart Van Assche <bvanassche@acm.org>

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>