net: sched: implement reference counted action release

Implement helper delete function that uses new action ops 'delete', instead
of destroying action directly. This is required so act API could delete
actions by index, without holding any references to action that is being
deleted.

Implement function __tcf_action_put() that releases reference to action and
frees it, if necessary. Refactor action deletion code to use new put
function and not to rely on rtnl lock. Remove rtnl lock assertions that are
no longer needed.

Reviewed-by: Marcelo Ricardo Leitner <marcelo.leitner@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Vlad Buslov <vladbu@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jiri Pirko <jiri@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>