xprtrdma: De-duplicate "allocate new, free old regbuf"

Clean up by providing an API to do this common task.

At this point, the difference between rpcrdma_get_sendbuf and
rpcrdma_get_recvbuf has become tiny. These can be collapsed into a
single helper.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>