bpf: add ability to charge bpf maps memory dynamically

This commits extends existing bpf maps memory charging API
to support dynamic charging/uncharging.

This is required to account memory used by maps,
if all entries are created dynamically after
the map initialization.

Signed-off-by: Roman Gushchin <guro@fb.com>
Cc: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Cc: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>
Acked-by: Martin KaFai Lau <kafai@fb.com>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>