neighbour: send netlink notification if NTF_ROUTER changes

send netlink notification if neigh_update results in NTF_ROUTER
change and if NEIGH_UPDATE_F_ISROUTER is on. Also move the
NTF_ROUTER change function into a helper.

Signed-off-by: Roopa Prabhu <roopa@cumulusnetworks.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>