udp: implement memory accounting helpers

Avoid using the generic helpers.
Use the receive queue spin lock to protect the memory
accounting operation, both on enqueue and on dequeue.

On dequeue perform partial memory reclaiming, trying to
leave a quantum of forward allocated memory.

On enqueue use a custom helper, to allow some optimizations:
- use a plain spin_lock() variant instead of the slightly
  costly spin_lock_irqsave(),
- avoid dst_force check, since the calling code has already
  dropped the skb dst
- avoid orphaning the skb, since skb_steal_sock() already did
  the work for us

The above needs custom memory reclaiming on shutdown, provided
by the udp_destruct_sock().

v5 -> v6:
  - don't orphan the skb on enqueue

v4 -> v5:
  - replace the mem_lock with the receive queue spin lock
  - ensure that the bh is always allowed to enqueue at least
    a skb, even if sk_rcvbuf is exceeded

v3 -> v4:
  - reworked memory accunting, simplifying the schema
  - provide an helper for both memory scheduling and enqueuing

v1 -> v2:
  - use a udp specific destrctor to perform memory reclaiming
  - remove a couple of helpers, unneeded after the above cleanup
  - do not reclaim memory on dequeue if not under memory
    pressure
  - reworked the fwd accounting schema to avoid potential
    integer overflow

Acked-by: Hannes Frederic Sowa <hannes@stressinduktion.org>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>