rds: Use atomic flag to track connections being destroyed

Replace c_destroy_in_prog by using a bit in cp_flags that
can set/tested atomically.

Signed-off-by: Sowmini Varadhan <sowmini.varadhan@oracle.com>
Acked-by: Santosh Shilimkar <santosh.shilimkar@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>