fsnotify: parent event notification

inotify and dnotify both use a similar parent notification mechanism.  We
add a generic parent notification mechanism to fsnotify for both of these
to use.  This new machanism also adds the dentry flag optimization which
exists for inotify to dnotify.

Signed-off-by: Eric Paris <eparis@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Al Viro <viro@zeniv.linux.org.uk>
Cc: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>