netfilter: nfnetlink_log: RCU conversion

- instances_lock becomes a spinlock
- lockless lookups

While nfnetlink_log probably not performance critical, using less
rwlocks in our code is always welcomed...

Signed-off-by: Eric Dumazet <eric.dumazet@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Patrick McHardy <kaber@trash.net>