md: don't insist on valid event count for spare devices.

Devices which know that they are spares do not really need to have
an event count that matches the rest of the array, so there are no
data-in-sync issues. It is enough that the uuid matches.
So remove the requirement that the event count is up-to-date.

We currently still write out and event count on spares, but this
allows us in a year or 3 to stop doing that completely.

Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>