md: range check slot number when manually adding a spare.

When adding a spare to an active array, we should check the slot
number, but allow it to be larger than raid_disks if a reshape
is being prepared.

Apply the same test when adding a device to an
array-under-construction.  It already had most of the test in place,
but not quite all.

Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>