netfilter: ipset: Prepare the ipset core to use RCU at set level

Replace rwlock_t with spinlock_t in "struct ip_set" and change the locking
accordingly. Convert the comment extension into an rcu-avare object. Also,
simplify the timeout routines.

Signed-off-by: Jozsef Kadlecsik <kadlec@blackhole.kfki.hu>