udp: better wmem accounting on gso

skb_segment by default transfers allocated wmem from the gso skb
to the tail of the segment list. This underreports real truesize
of the list, especially if the tail might be dropped.

Similar to tcp_gso_segment, update wmem_alloc with the aggregate
list truesize and make each segment responsible for its own
share by setting skb->destructor.

Clear gso_skb->destructor prior to calling skb_segment to skip
the default assignment to tail.

Signed-off-by: Willem de Bruijn <willemb@google.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>