udp: fix possible user after free in error handler

Similar to the previous commit, this addresses the same issue for
ipv4: use a single fetch operation and use the correct rcu
annotation.

Fixes: e7cc0824

 ("udp: Support for error handlers of tunnels with arbitrary destination port")
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Stefano Brivio <sbrivio@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>