IB/qib, staging/rdma/hfi1, IB/rdmavt: progress selection changes

The non-rdamvt versions of qib and hfi1 allow for a differing
heuristic to override a schedule progress in favor of a direct
call the the progress routine.

This patch adds that for both drivers and rdmavt.

Reviewed-by: Dennis Dalessandro <dennis.dalessandro@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Mike Marciniszyn <mike.marciniszyn@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>