ide: fix refcounting in device drivers

During host driver module removal del_gendisk() results in a final
put on drive->gendev and freeing the drive by drive_release_dev().

Convert device drivers from using struct kref to use struct device
so device driver's object holds reference on ->gendev and prevents
drive from prematurely going away.

Also fix ->remove methods to not erroneously drop reference on a
host driver by using only put_device() instead of ide*_put().

Reported-by: Stanislaw Gruszka <stf_xl@wp.pl>
Tested-by: Stanislaw Gruszka <stf_xl@wp.pl>
Signed-off-by: Bartlomiej Zolnierkiewicz <bzolnier@gmail.com>