netfilter: nfnetlink: Remove VLA usage

In the quest to remove all stack VLA usage from the kernel[1], this
allocates the maximum size expected for all possible attrs and adds
sanity-checks at both registration and usage to make sure nothing
gets out of sync.

[1] https://lkml.kernel.org/r/CA+55aFzCG-zNmZwX4A2FQpadafLfEzK6CC=qPXydAacU1RqZWA@mail.gmail.com

Signed-off-by: Kees Cook <keescook@chromium.org>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>