net: sched: use get_dev() action API in flow_action infra

When filling in hardware intermediate representation tc_setup_flow_action()
directly obtains, checks and takes reference to dev used by mirred action,
instead of using act->ops->get_dev() API created specifically for this
purpose. In order to remove code duplication, refactor flow_action infra to
use action API when obtaining mirred action target dev. Extend get_dev()
with additional argument that is used to provide dev destructor to the
user.

Fixes: 5a6ff4b1 ("net: sched: take reference to action dev before calling offloads")
Signed-off-by: Vlad Buslov <vladbu@mellanox.com>
Acked-by: Jiri Pirko <jiri@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>