libbpf: remove qidconf and better support external bpf programs.

Use the recent change to XSKMAP bpf_map_lookup_elem() to test if
there is a xsk present in the map instead of duplicating the work
with qidconf.

Fix things so callers using XSK_LIBBPF_FLAGS__INHIBIT_PROG_LOAD
bypass any internal bpf maps, so xsk_socket__{create|delete} works
properly.

Clean up error handling path.

Signed-off-by: Jonathan Lemon <jonathan.lemon@gmail.com>
Acked-by: Song Liu <songliubraving@fb.com>
Tested-by: Björn Töpel <bjorn.topel@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>