xprtrdma: Fix receive buffer accounting

An RPC can terminate before its reply arrives, if a credential
problem or a soft timeout occurs. After this happens, xprtrdma
reports it is out of Receive buffers.

A Receive buffer is posted before each RPC is sent, and returned to
the buffer pool when a reply is received. If no reply is received
for an RPC, that Receive buffer remains posted. But xprtrdma tries
to post another when the next RPC is sent.

If this happens a few dozen times, there are no receive buffers left
to be posted at send time. I don't see a way for a transport
connection to recover at that point, and it will spit warnings and
unnecessarily delay RPCs on occasion for its remaining lifetime.

Commit 1e465fd4 ("xprtrdma: Replace send and receive arrays")
removed a little bit of logic to detect this case and not provide
a Receive buffer so no more buffers are posted, and then transport
operation continues correctly. We didn't understand what that logic
did, and it wasn't commented, so it was removed as part of the
overhaul to support backchannel requests.

Restore it, but be wary of the need to keep extra Receives posted
to deal with backchannel requests.

Fixes: 1e465fd4 ("xprtrdma: Replace send and receive arrays")
Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Reviewed-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>
Signed-off-by: Trond Myklebust <trond.myklebust@primarydata.com>