vhost-user: introduce shared vhost-user state

When multi queue is enabled e.g. for a virtio-net device,
each queue pair will have a vhost_dev, and the only thing
shared between vhost devs currently is the chardev. This
patch introduces a vhost-user state structure which will
be shared by all vhost devs of the same virtio device.

Signed-off-by: Tiwei Bie <tiwei.bie@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>