TLS: Default secure renegotiation compatability

By default this change will have servers send the renegotiation info
extension, but not allow renegotiation. This is accordance with RFC 5746

From to RFC 5746:
> In order to enable clients to probe, even servers that do not support
> renegotiation MUST implement the minimal version of the extension
> described in this document for initial handshakes, thus signaling
> that they have been upgraded.

With openSSL 3.0 the default it not allow connections to servers
without secure renegotiation extension. See
https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/15127