sd-bus: optionally, exit process or event loop on disconnect

Old libdbus has a feature that the process is terminated whenever the the bus
connection receives a disconnect. This is pretty useful on desktop apps (where
a disconnect indicates session termination), as well as on command line apps
(where we really shouldn't stay hanging in most cases if dbus daemon goes
down).

Add a similar feature to sd-bus, but make it opt-in rather than opt-out, like
it is on libdbus. Also, if the bus is attached to an event loop just exit the
event loop rather than the the whole process.