pid1: fix collection of cycles of units which reference one another

A .socket will reference a .service unit, by registering a UnitRef with the
.service unit. If this .service unit has the .socket unit listed in Wants or
Sockets or such, a cycle will be created. We would not free this cycle
properly, because we treated any unit with non-empty refs as uncollectable. To
solve this issue, treats refs with UnitRef in u->refs_by_target similarly to
the refs in u->dependencies, and check if the "other" unit is known to be
needed. If it is not needed, do not treat the reference from it as preventing
the unit we are looking at from being freed.

(cherry picked from commit 2641f02e)