ethtool: extend coalesce setting uAPI with CQE mode

In order to support more coalesce parameters through netlink,
add two new parameter kernel_coal and extack for .set_coalesce
and .get_coalesce, then some extra info can return to user with
the netlink API.

Signed-off-by: Yufeng Mo <moyufeng@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Huazhong Tan <tanhuazhong@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>