RDS/IB: Disallow connections less than RDS 3.1

RDS 3.0 connections (in OFED 1.3 and earlier) put the
header at the end. 3.1 connections put it at the head.
The code has significant added complexity in order to
handle both configurations. In OFED 1.6 we can
drop this and simplify the code by only supporting
"header-first" configuration.

This patch checks the protocol version, and if prior
to 3.1, does not complete the connection.

Signed-off-by: Andy Grover <andy.grover@oracle.com>