md: factor out a helper to wake up md_thread directly

md_wakeup_thread() can't wakeup md_thread->tsk if md_thread->run is
still in progress, and in some cases md_thread->tsk need to be woke up
directly, like md_set_readonly() and do_md_stop().

Commit 9dfbdafd ("md: unlock mddev before reap sync_thread in
action_store") introduce a new scenario where unregister sync_thread is
not protected by 'reconfig_mutex', this can cause null-ptr-deference in
theroy:

t1: md_set_readonly		t2: action_store
				md_unregister_thread
				// 'reconfig_mutex' is not held
// 'reconfig_mutex' is held by caller
if (mddev->sync_thread)
				 thread = *threadp
				 *threadp = NULL
 wake_up_process(mddev->sync_thread->tsk)
 // null-ptr-deference

Fix this problem by factoring out a helper to wake up md_thread directly,
so that 'sync_thread' won't be accessed multiple times from the reader
side. This helper also prepare to protect md_thread with rcu.

Noted that later patches is going to fix that unregister sync_thread is
not protected by 'reconfig_mutex' from action_store().

Signed-off-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230523021017.3048783-2-yukuai1@huaweicloud.com