fsnotify: allow groups to add private data to events

inotify needs per group information attached to events.  This patch allows
groups to attach private information and implements a callback so that
information can be freed when an event is being destroyed.

Signed-off-by: Eric Paris <eparis@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Al Viro <viro@zeniv.linux.org.uk>
Cc: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>