xprtrdma: Update only specific fields in private receive buffer

Now that rpcrdma_inline_fixup() updates only two fields in
rq_rcv_buf, a full memcpy of that structure to rq_private_buf is
unwarranted. Updating rq_private_buf fields only where needed also
better documents what is going on.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Tested-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>