md: fix deadlock between mddev_suspend() and md_write_start()

If mddev_suspend() races with md_write_start() we can deadlock
with mddev_suspend() waiting for the request that is currently
in md_write_start() to complete the ->make_request() call,
and md_write_start() waiting for the metadata to be updated
to mark the array as 'dirty'.
As metadata updates done by md_check_recovery() only happen then
the mddev_lock() can be claimed, and as mddev_suspend() is often
called with the lock held, these threads wait indefinitely for each
other.

We fix this by having md_write_start() abort if mddev_suspend()
is happening, and ->make_request() aborts if md_write_start()
aborted.
md_make_request() can detect this abort, decrease the ->active_io
count, and wait for mddev_suspend().

Reported-by: Nix <nix@esperi.org.uk>
Fix: 68866e42(MD: no sync IO while suspended)
Cc: stable@vger.kernel.org
Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Shaohua Li <shli@fb.com>