splice: abstract out actor data

For direct splicing (or private splicing), the output may not be a file.
So abstract out the handling into a specified actor function and put
the data in the splice_desc structure earlier, so we can build on top
of that.

This is the first step in better splice handling for drivers, and also
for implementing vmsplice _to_ user memory.

Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <jens.axboe@oracle.com>