xfs: nest qm_dqfrlist_lock inside the dquot qlock

Allow xfs_qm_dqput to work without trylock loops by nesting the freelist lock
inside the dquot qlock.  In turn that requires trylocks in the reclaim path
instead, but given it's a classic tradeoff between fast and slow path, and
we follow the model of the inode and dentry caches.

Document our new lock order now that it has settled.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Dave Chinner <dchinner@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Ben Myers <bpm@sgi.com>