xprtrdma: Faster server reboot recovery

In a cluster failover scenario, it is desirable for the client to
attempt to reconnect quickly, as an alternate NFS server is already
waiting to take over for the down server. The client can't see that
a server IP address has moved to a new server until the existing
connection is gone.

For fabrics and devices where it is meaningful, set a definite upper
bound on the amount of time before it is determined that a
connection is no longer valid. This allows the RPC client to detect
connection loss in a timely matter, then perform a fresh resolution
of the server GUID in case it has changed (cluster failover).

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Tested-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>