epoll: use rwlock in order to reduce ep_poll_callback() contention

The goal of this patch is to reduce contention of ep_poll_callback()
which can be called concurrently from different CPUs in case of high
events rates and many fds per epoll.  Problem can be very well
reproduced by generating events (write to pipe or eventfd) from many
threads, while consumer thread does polling.  In other words this patch
increases the bandwidth of events which can be delivered from sources to
the poller by adding poll items in a lockless way to the list.

The main change is in replacement of the spinlock with a rwlock, which
is taken on read in ep_poll_callback(), and then by adding poll items to
the tail of the list using xchg atomic instruction.  Write lock is taken
everywhere else in order to stop list modifications and guarantee that
list updates are fully completed (I assume that write side of a rwlock
does not starve, it seems qrwlock implementation has these guarantees).

The following are some microbenchmark resu...