nvme: use blk_mq_[un]quiesce_tagset

All controller namespaces share the same tagset, so we can use this
interface which does the optimal operation for parallel quiesce based on
the tagset type(e.g. blocking tagsets and non-blocking tagsets).

nvme connect_q should not be quiesced when quiesce tagset, so set the
QUEUE_FLAG_SKIP_TAGSET_QUIESCE to skip it when init connect_q.

Currently we use NVME_NS_STOPPED to ensure pairing quiescing and
unquiescing. If use blk_mq_[un]quiesce_tagset, NVME_NS_STOPPED will be
invalided, so introduce NVME_CTRL_STOPPED to replace NVME_NS_STOPPED.
In addition, we never really quiesce a single namespace. It is a better
choice to move the flag from ns to ctrl.

Signed-off-by: Chao Leng <lengchao@huawei.com>
[hch: rebased on top of prep patches]
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Keith Busch <kbusch@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Chao Leng <lengchao@huawei.com>
Reviewed-by: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.de>
Reviewed-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Reviewed-by: Chaitanya Kulkarni <kch@nvidia.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20221101150050.3510-15-hch@lst.de
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>