netfilter: nf_tables: hit ENOENT on unexisting chain/flowtable update with missing attributes

If user does not specify hook number and priority, then assume this is
a chain/flowtable update. Therefore, report ENOENT which provides a
better hint than EINVAL. Set on extended netlink error report to refer
to the chain name.

Fixes: 5b6743fb ("netfilter: nf_tables: skip flowtable hooknum and priority on device updates")
Fixes: 5efe72698a97 ("netfilter: nf_tables: support for adding new devices to an existing netdev chain")
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>