cxgb4i: send abort_rpl correctly

Connection retries were not being cleaned up correctly if they failed as a
result of link down. Applies on top of drivers-for-3.18.

Signed-off-by: Anish Bhatt <anish@chelsio.com>
Signed-off-by: Karen Xie <kxie@chelsio.com>
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>